OGTs*
*Obvious Gay Traits
I was talking with someone the other day about stereotypes and whether to avoid natural personality traits that may correlate with a negative stereotype. Translation: if you naturally act 'gay,' should you try not to act that way?"
This started me thinking; as usual, this square peg has trouble fitting any round hole. On the one hand,
- I can build or fix almost anything, from cars to houses (thanks, Dad)
- I love military history
- I'm a gun enthusiast, and enjoy hunting
- I drive a pick-up truck (I'm from Texas, though, so that may not count)
- I hate quiche!
On the other hand,
- I love musicals and showtunes
- I enjoy chick flicks (as well as SF, action, drama, etc.)
- I'm bookish (1,500 books and climbing . . . )
- musically inclined (both trumpet and french horn)
- I love classical music (but not opera)
- I like Manilow and Abba (but can't stand most divas)
- I hate sports
- I would love to learn to dance like Fred Astaire
- I have a slight lisp
- I enjoy shopping
- I enjoy decorating
- I'm very artistic/creative
- I majored in Liberal Arts
- I'm a neat freak (though children have mitigated that somewhat)
- I spend way too much time on my hair in the mornings
- I'm not exactly hyper-masculine
- I'm the sensitive type
- I'm soft-spoken
- I'm a good listener (women love to dish to me)
- At a party, I'll hang around with women more than men
- I'm extremely close to my Mom
The thing is, even if I wanted to or could change any of these things, I would cease being who I am.
Which leads us back to the chicken and the egg: do I have these traits because I am bisexual, or am I bi because I have these traits? Or do they really have anything to do with each other? Correlation does not always equal causation. It could be coincidence.
Regardless, "I yam what I yam, and that's all that I yam!"
