I tried to talk with my wife this evening. I showed her Bisexuality.com. Don't know why, I guess I'd hoped that she'd see that other people on there were normal, trying to figure themselves out too.

The problem is twofold: she doesn't understand, and she's in denial. Though she won't admit it, she's probably scared. Lord knows I am. Rather than tiptoeing around the subject, I have fully embraced the fact that I am a bisexual man. For me, this is a *huge* thing, and she just seems to think it's like discovering that you enjoy a certain flavor of tea. "Oh, OK then, let's get on with life . . ." The problem is I can't just "get on with life."

I don't know what to do. It's not that I want to act on these attractions, I'm married, for goodness' sake! But this is a BIG THING for me. I can't just say, "Oh, OK. I'm bisexual. Now back to my regular programming." I just don't know what comes next, and my closest confidant is not available for discussion.

On the other hand, maybe I need to stop thinking about me so much in this, and think about her. Maybe I need to reassure her that I'm not going to change into a different person; that she is still and always my one and only.

Something to think about as I go about my night . . .

I recently posted the following at a forum, where the topic of discussion was whether folks had, or planned to, come out to their parents:

My Dad passed in 2001, and my Mom is 81. At 44, I'm "out" to my wife and a couple of close friends, and that's it. I'm not particularly intent on hiding it, but I'm not exactly a radical in-your-face activist, either.

Am i living a lie? Not an issue for me. There's no need to cause pain where it's not necessary. An there's just no compelling reason for me to do so.

I was recently involved in a discussion regarding God "healing" me of being bisexual. I started to reply to a comment there, but by the time I was done, realized that I'd gone off-topic for that forum, so I decided to post it here.